Moderation is not the same thing as deprivation. I JUST figured this out, and am still struggling with it occasionally.
In previous attempts at weight loss, I deprived myself of many things I liked, demonizing them as "bad foods" that were "off limits." I also ate very little at times. While I did learn that I liked many new and healthier things, eventually the cravings would drive me bonkers and I'd go on a bit of a binge. Lather, rinse, repeat.
I'd think, "Moderation is HARD!" without realizing that it wasn't moderation at all.
I've only just realized that I don't need to take an all or nothing approach to losing weight and being healthy... because, for me, that's NOT healthy! It's okay to have a cappuccino with full fat milk or even a biscuit or two, just as long as I don't have them everyday (or several times in a day). I find a lot of comfort and relief in that. Having a treat now and again is not a failure... it's enjoying my life!
I may lose weight more slowly this way, but I think I'll have a better chance of keeping it off this time.
5 days ago